Domestic abuse

Domestic abuse

Preventing and eradicating violence and abuse in Hillingdon is everybody's business.

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What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse can include, but is not limited to, the following types of abuse: psychological, emotional, physical, sexual and financial. It also includes what is known as 'honour' based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage.

Domestic abuse affects people of every class, gender, level of wealth, geography, age, race, disability and sexuality. The violence can begin at any stage of the relationship and may continue after the relationship has ended. It is a pattern of controlling and aggressive behaviour that is intentional and calculated to exercise power and control within a relationship.

Download the easy to read guide on domestic abuse (PDF) [3MB]

Recognise the signs of domestic abuse

Zero tolerance approach

We are committed to preventing and eradicating all forms of violence and abuse against women, children and men in Hillingdon and to support those victimised to achieve their full potential in life.

We want Hillingdon to be a safe space for everyone and we are committed to our zero tolerance policy to domestic abuse. Our main priorities are:

  1. Prevention and engagement
    We and our partners are committed to working with communities, charities and others to make violence and abuse unacceptable in all communities. There is a clear commitment to protecting victims and breaking the cycle of offending.
  2. Service provision
    We and our partners will engage with victims and survivors to understand their experiences of services. By listening to victims and survivors, action will be taken to improve. The right services will be commissioned and coordinated to prevent violence and abuse in a sustained way.
  3. Pursuing perpetrators
    We and our partners will work to strengthen the justice response. This work will also include strengthening agencies work in assessing and minimising the risks posed by perpetrators. 
  4. Partnership working
    Together the Safer Hillingdon Partnership will work with a broad coalition of partners to create a safer borough and a safer future for victims, survivors and future generations.

Read more in our Domestic Abuse Strategy 2018-2021 (PDF) [414KB]

We are also working alongside Crimestoppers on a campaign called Change Needs You. More information on this can be found on the Crimestoppers website.

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Are you a victim of domestic abuse?

Everyone has arguments, and everyone disagrees with their partners, family members and others close to them from time to time. But if certain behaviours start to form a consistent pattern, then it is an indication of domestic abuse and violence.

If your abuser is threatening you, hitting you, kicking you, using a weapon against you or threatening to kill you, call 999.

Take the Women's Aid self-assessment to find out if you are in an abusive relationship.

If you are a victim of domestic abuse or violence, make a safety plan to help you live safely and be safe if you stay.

Call our dedicated Independent Domestic Violence Advocates (IDVAs) on 0787 462 0954 or email

Are you worried about someone else?

If you witness abuse and believe the victim is at risk of serious harm, call 999.  For all non emergencies, call 101 or, if you are a member of staff working in care or health settings, you can use report a safeguarding concern via our website.

For anonymous reporting, use the CrimeStoppers website.

If you are concerned about your mum, sister, brother, cousin, colleague, neighbour, employee or friend who is experiencing abuse, you can also help.

If you are worried about a child's welfare, or believe they are at risk of harm, contact Hillingdon Multi-Agency Safeguarding Hub (MASH) to make a safeguarding referral on 01895 556 633.

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Are you concerned about your behaviour?

Do you:

  • threaten or manipulate your partner?
  • physically hurt your partner?
  • get jealous or angry when your partner is away from you?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, call the Respect phoneline on 0808 802 4040 and choose to stop hurting the one you love.

There is more information available on the Respect website.

Do you know an abuser?

It can be hard to speak out when someone you know is committing a crime, but you can contact Crimestoppers anonymously to tell them about abuse.

Call Crimestoppers on their anonymous freephone line 0800 555 111 or use the Crimestoppers website to report a domestic abuser.

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Helplines and support

National Domestic Violence Helpline

 0808 2000 247
Hillingdon DA MARAC 0208 246 1798
Hillingdon Independent DV Advocates07874 620954
Victim Support0845 450 3883
Galop (national LGBT+ domestic abuse)0800 999 5428
Men's Advice Line0808 081 0827
Forced Marriage Unit0207 008 0151
Hestia020 8848 5893
Richmond Fellowship020 7697 3300
Rape Crisis0808 802 9999
NSPCC0808 800 5000
The Traveller Movement0207 607 2002
Traveller education service 01895 556207
Hillingdon Women's Centre01895 259578

There are a large number of organisations which operate at the national, London and local levels serving and supporting Hillingdon residents.

You can also find details of local authority support services on page 25/26 of our  local resources guide (PDF) [419KB]. You can also use our website for information on social care for adults, children and families and housing advice.

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Page last updated: 06 May 2022